Common Divorce Myth That Costs High-Earners Millions

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“ If you earn more than your spouse, this belief can financially destroy you.

One of the biggest misconceptions among high-income earners is believing divorce is a simple 50/50 split. Courts look at income, lifestyle, earning capacity, bonuses, equity compensation, and future earnings. Without strategy, I’ve seen people lose far more than expected.”

The Most Overlooked Divorce Expense

 “Everyone misses this one cost.” Lifestyle analysis. This can involve hiring vocational experts to analyze a party's ability to earn income and/or whether they are actually conducting a diligent effort to find work if they're claiming unemployment. Forensic accounting. This can involve tracing hidden assets or income. Expert valuations. This usually involves valuing a business or professional practice. Attorney for Children. In contested custody matters, such attorneys may cost ten's of thousands. Cost clarity matters — schedule a strategy session.

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If the dad is providing college tuition fee and the child is 18 yrs old. can the child refuse to meet with the dad ?

Q:  the dad is providing college tuition fee and the 18 yrs old daughter refuse to meet with him. can the dad stop paying the tuition as the daughter doesn't meet with him. does the daughter needs permission if she wants to go somewhere or meet with someone.


A:  David's Answer:  If there's a court order, then the father can't just stop paying for college - he'd need to file a modification petition under these circumstances. That said, he generally wouldn't be successful unless the daughter's refusal to visit is completely unjustified. Schedule a consult with a Westchester Child Support attorney for a full assessment.   -- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support attorney (www.blivenlaw.net) 

Statute of limitations child support,ny state

Q:  Wife had children,gave up children to father,now seeking child support for when father had children , from 1983 .


A:  David's Answer:  If she's seeking an initial order, she loses as support is only retroactive to the date of her petition. If she had a money judgment for arrears, it's arguably still enforceable depending on the date of her judgment (& whether it was renewed at any subsequent point). That said, the general statute of limitations for a judgment is 20 years (though if the judgment pre-dated 1987, it may be only 6 years). Schedule a consult with a White Plains Child Support attorney for a full assessment.  -- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support attorney (www.blivenlaw.net) 

I AM THE PAYOR/NON CUSTODIAL PARENT. IM PAYING CHILD SUPPORT TO MY EX. CAN IT BE LOWERED WHEN MY CURRENT SPOUSE GIVES BIRTH?

Q:  WE HAD A STIPULATION OF SETTLEMENT.

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IF IT CAN BE LOWERED, BY HOW MUCH? I PAY SUPPORT FOR TWO CHILDREN.

A:  David's Answer:  Generally if you have subsequent children, you cannot use that as a basis to lower support. In effect, the law says those children get whatever's left of your income after the first child(ren) get his/hers/their cut. There may be some other remedies in store, so you're best advised to schedule a consult with a Westchester Child Support attorney.   -- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support attorney (www.blivenlaw.net) 

I lost my job - how do I modify child support?

Written by David Bliven

Child Support Lawyer - White Plains, NY

Especially since the '08 financial crash, many people have lost their job. However, don't assume your child support order will automatically go down.

1 - File a Modification Petition

In NY, one only gets reflief retroactive to the date of filing, so if you lose your job, file a petition for modification right away. You cannot get a modification if you either voluntarily quit or are fired due to misconduct.

2 - Burden of Proof

On your petition, you have the burden of proving you lost your job thru no fault of your own. Thus, you must produce a notarized letter from your ex-employer confirming you were laid off, or other similar proof. You must ALSO prove you're making a diligent job search. You can generally only prove this by submitting a job search diary, comprising printouts & recordations of all your efforts to find work commensurate with your prior earnings. You should be aware that if you're completely out-of-work, the Court will generally require 30-40+ efforts per week. If you're working part-time, this may be reduced depending on your hours to 10-30 efforts per week.

Additional Resources

To access forms to restore your drivers license or challenge arrears, follow the link below.

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Can my bank account be frozen from owe child support only $561.18

Q:  they already take money out my check for back child support.


A:  David's Answer:  If they have a money judgment, then any arrears owed can trigger a restraining notice on your account. If you have more than $561.18 in the account, it may be best to cut a deal with them. Schedule a consult with an Orange/Westchester Child Support lawyer for more info.  -- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support attorney (www.blivenlaw.net) 

Can I sue my ex to terminate deferred child support, now that children are grown and she withheld them from me in violation

Q:  I am divorced 20 years and paid reduced child support of 800 a month for 20 yrs (200 month was deferred, which I have now been paying for 7 years, half the sum due). Ex lives out of state and never allowed visitation but I continued to pay. Kids are now in mid 20's and I have no relations with them due to her violation of decree even though I have lived up to every stipulation. Is it possible to sue her to terminate the remaining sum due now since it wont affect the kids, is only for her benefit and she violated every single stipulation without regard for the law or the damage she's done to me.


A:  David's Answer:  First, you'd no longer be able to bring up the issue of emancipation as a defense, as the children are already over 21. As for her violating the stipulation, a fuller assessment would be needed as one would need to know (a) what the violations were, and (b) whether you sent a default notice letter to her addressing each & every violation. Schedule a consult with an Orange/Westchester Child Support attorney.  -- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support attorney (www.blivenlaw.net) 

How much maintenance and child support can be legally deducted in New York State?

Q:  My fiancé is divorced. His ex wife has been cohabiting wih her boyfriend since May 2014 but they are not yet holding themselves out as husband and wife. He was awarded a $500/month modification but still pays his ex wife 88% of his salary for maintenance and child support. He works approximately 60-70 hours a week, and in addition pays for health insurance for boh children and for college, auto and cell phone costs for his older child. His ex wife is perfectly capable of working yet refuses to do so. Her boyfriend is paying the bills on the house my fiancé built and she continues her excessive lifestyle. Are there laws in place that state what percentage of someone's income can be legally drawn for maintenance and child support? He even had to declare bankruptcy. It doesn't seem kosher.


A:  David's Answer:  Yes, there are guidelines for child support & maintenance in NY. You can access the child support calculator here:http://www.nyc.gov/html/hra/html/services/child..., and the maintenance calculator here: http://www.courts.state.ny.us/divorce/calculato.... And while the maintenance calculator only technically governs interim maintenance awards, it nevertheless put you n the ballpark of what the court will award either on a final order or post-judgment determination. Schedule a consult with an Orange/Westchester Child Support attorney for a full assessment.  -- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support attorney (www.blivenlaw.net) 

How to get court to have custodial mother document actual working hours.

Q:  I have reasons to believe the Custodial Mother (CM) is submitting fraudulent expenses for daycare (of which I have a pro-rata share of 57%) Daycare provider is a neighborhood minor, not a licensed provider or facility. Have been unable to make contact with provider to verify hours/days. 

CM has testified in earlier proceedings her employment is itinerant in nature, without set days or hours. Can she be compelled to provide verification from her employer to accompany daycare expenses? Would I do this by Order to Show Cause, or a Modification Support order? Can I request that all daycare expenses be paid by check and only reimbursed when accompanied by cancelled check AND verification of days/hours worked? Am a pro-se Non Custodial Dad.

A:  David's Answer:  The Court wouldn't generally "require" her to produce certain kinds of evidence. That's on you to request, either by subpoena or disclosure demands. You would do so within the context of a modification proceeding. Schedule a consult with a Westchester Child Support attorney for a full assessment.  -- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support attorney (www.blivenlaw.net) 

DISMISSED WITH PREJUDICE/DISMISSED W/O PREJUDICE - CHILD SUPPT ARREARS

Q:  Modification Petition from Suppt. Magistrate was dismissed with Prejudice (child suppt. arrears). Then on last page of Order of Dismissal it states that it is ORDERED that the petition herein is dismissed without prejudice. What does this mean? Does it mean that objections can be filed with a Judge? Can I go to Court of Appeals after that?

A:  David's Answer:  You can (almost) always appeal a final order - regardless of whether it's "with prejudice" or "without." "With Prejudice" means you cannot re-file the same petition with the same set of facts again. That said, denial of an Objection appeal to a Judge then would be appealed to the Appellate Division, then (if necessary) to the Court of Appeals. Schedule a consult with a Westchester Child Support attorney for a full assessment.  -- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support attorney (www.blivenlaw.net)

I received a Decision Order from the Support Magistrate on Sept 8 saying that I no longer have to split babysitting with my ex

Q:  ....since my daughter is over 13. A few days later my ex submitted an Objection. I submitted a Rebuttal on October 10. My ex then submitted a Reply Affidavit on October 15. I ignored it, but I haven't heard back from the court and it's now 3 months later. My ex owes me almost $1,000 for the time between my original petition and when the Decision Order was signed. What should I do?


A:  David's Answer:  While the Judge generally has up to 60 days to render a decision, this time frame is routinely extended due to either backlog, the Judge waiting for transcripts to come back, etc. You can always try calling the Court Clerk just to confirm they have received everything & passed it along to the Judge. Schedule a consult with a Westchester Child Support attorney for a full assessment.  -- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support attorney (www.blivenlaw.net)

Are temporary orders of support in regards to child support and maintenance usally be perminent once the judge rules in trial?

Q:  I was just curious what the liklyhood that the temp. order of child support and maintence can be reduced? also if they requested i pay lawyers fees and the judge just ordered 12.5% of thair request in the temp order, would that same trend of 12.5% follow once the judge rules in trial for any additional lawyers fees the other side may request?


A:  David's Answer:  Let's put it this way, the side who wants a change in the temporary order must ultimately prove that change at trial. Thus, they must develop a basis for the change thru the process of disclosure. If they don't, then the Judge will most likely stick to something close to the temporary order. Schedule a consult with a Rockland/Westchester Child Support attorney.   -- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support attorney (www.blivenlaw.net)

Is Child support a tax deduction in Ny

Q:  I don't know more details on it


A:  David's Answer:  Child Support is neither deductible by the payor nor includible as income to the recipient. Schedule a consult with an Orange/Westchester Child Support attorney for more info.  -- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support attorney (www.blivenlaw.net)

I want a child support increase , how do I make this happen?

Q:  I want to have my ex pay more child support , I had agreed to $50 dallors a week 8 months ago threw court. When she should be paying $104 . I've had to expand and buy a house to accommodate everyone. My expense are higher and my medical increase. 8 months ago the $50 was ok but it doesn't go far anymore.


A:  David's Answer:  If filing a modification prior to 3 years having passed since the last order was set, you have the obligation to prove a substantial change of circumstances. As to whether you'll be able to satisfy same will depend on an analysis of your individual finances. As such, you should schedule a consult with an Orange/Westchester Child Support attorney for a full assessment.    -- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support attorney (www.blivenlaw.net)

My kids and I live in NY, their dad lives in Mexico, can I sue him for child support?

Q:  He lives in Mexico city, has a new wife and a child, in the divorce we agreed on one amount, how do I know if thsi was fair and if I can sue him for child support from ny


A:  David's Answer:  Where did you get divorced, in Mexico or in NY? If in NY, then did he consent to NY having jurisdiction? If yes, then the child support should've been contained in the divorce judgment. If you divorced in Mexico, then further facts are needed to assess whether you'd be able to get jurisdiction over him here. Schedule a consult with a White Plains Child Support attorney for a full assessment.   =-- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support attorney (www.blivenlaw.net)

Child support magistrate committed crime by falsify my annual income buy14,000 so that the petitioner could get more money

Question: I gave my income $6,600,,She wouldn't give her decision at the hearing.3 day's later I get my support order reading that my annual income was $20,800 .She did this with no prove whatsoever.I believe she has committed a crime under 37.09 line (2) of the penal code. Can I have her charged and what do I need to do to charge her.She falsified documents with knowledge that it would change the out come of a official proceeding.This a c class mis. border line felony.Please tell me what I can do,thanks will

David's Answer: No - your remedy is to file an Objection appeal. Bear in mind such appeals must be filed within 35 days of the date the Court mailed you the order. You also have an obligation to order & produce to the court transcripts of all the proceedings held before the Magistrate. -- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support attorney (www.blivenlaw.net)

Do I have to pay these child care expenses.

Question: I have a child support ordered for my daughter,. I've been paying good and I do have included in the support if there are child care expense I have to reimburse her 50%. At the time she didn't have expense because her mother babysitters her. Now she mailed me a lot of money orders dated back from Sept stating she pay 80 a week to her neighbor to watch my daughter. It's about $700. Do I have to pay this far back? Or did she have a certain time limit to give these to me.

David's Answer: If the order doesn't specify otherwise, you'd need to pay these amounts. That said, I'd suggest you file a modification petition to get the "30-30 rule" inserted into the order - in a nutshell, it means she has to get you the receipts of any unreimbursed expense within 30 days or it's waived, while you'd have 30 days to pay or else be considered in default. -- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support attorney (www.blivenlaw.net)

Can I file a child support modification

Question: I recently asked the court to order my daughters, father to add her to his insurance. Because he went from a single to a family plan, the judge deducted the amount he would pay for support and credited him that money towards the extra cost he incurred for changing plans. However, the insurance plan he has is the same amount wether u insure 2 people or 10, and I recently found out he added his wife and her daughter to that plan as, well. Can I ask for my child support to be set back to the amount it was, before because I do my feel it's fair he is paying less for support for my daughter if other people in his house hold are benefitting from the same plan?

David's Answer: I think you have a fair shot to do so, yes. File a modification petition with the Family Court & get him served. -- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support attorney (www.blivenlaw.net)