Q: he took this layoff in January, voluntarily, and was accepted into a gov subsidized second careers program. He now only collects the money they offer for schooling support and has come to me to take me for child support. I have been paying for all of our daughters expenses (clothing, extra curricular activities etc) since January and have kept receipts.
A: I'm confused by your question - are your children residing with the father? If yes, then you do indeed need to pay child support to the father regardless of his job situation. If the children are residing with you, on the other hand, then the father owes child support to you, not the other way around. -- David Bliven, Westchester Child Support lawyer (www.blivenlaw.net)
1 - Get a Written Agreement
The very first thing you should do - if you do NOT already have a child support order for that 1st child - is to have a written agreement drawn between you & the mother of that 1st child. The agreement should be drafted by a capable child support lawyer, as there's particular language which should go in there so it's valid.
2 - Ideally Get the Agreement Reduced to the Form of an Order
You are best advised to then file a petition in Family Court & get a Support Magistrate to issue a court order based on the agreement. Then if the mother of the 2d child files a petition for a support order, you can produce a copy of that agreement and/or order, along with proof of payment, and you should receive a credit for supporting that 1st child.